So, my long-term boyfriend and I broke up recently and I am the one who ended it. I broke up with him because he refused to grow up and straighten out his priorities, which really frustrated me and created a very big gap in our communication and our relationship.
We were dating for more than eight years, and it’s so hard for me to move on. I keep feeling like I’ve made a huge mistake, and it’s just so heartbreaking. I feel like I’ll never recover and never fall in love again. I know so many people go through this, and everyone says time heals, but I genuinely feel like I’m going to die because of how much this hurts.
Nothing was “wrong” on paper like didn’t cheat on me or do something particularly terrible but he was so emotionally unavailable. He never took me out, never made time for me, and always prioritized unimportant friendships that brought temporary happiness over his long-term partner. He would rather go out, drink, or party, and those things really got to me because I chose to focus on grown-up priorities and a relationship that I hoped would eventually turn into marriage.