I am thinking about sending a letter to my abuser.
Hello! I am kay and i am a survivor of child abuse. I sacrificed my entire life due to this man. I quit school at 13 because i was terrified of leaving the house incase he would harm the pets, my mother or my possessions.
We escaped the abuse 3 months ago but he’s still hanging onto threads, He contacts my mum from time to time to be able to come and remove his things from my house. The last time he saw me messaging my mum on her phone, he saw that whenever he is in the house i get panic attacks and wanted to know why, wanted to know what he ever done to me.
So i wrote out a letter today and im unsure on whether i should send it.
The end of the letter gives quite a jist of how i feel and to be honest, letting the anger go removed a lot of pain but i want him to see for himself what he caused, but im unsure if this is a bad idea. Below is the end of the letter, im not going to share the entire thing as its 3 pages long and has details that can be triggers. But please somebody give me some advice.
Letter ending : So you wanted reasoning? theirs my why. You are a horrible person and you’ve had so many chances to try to fix yourself and you’ve never taken them. You continue and always will be an abuser, a manipulator and a n*rcissist.
This is the last time i will ever talk to you, i don’t want to see your face. you ruined my life and you ruined my mother’s life. I can’t talk for her but i can talk for myself because i deserved to be protected from people like you as a child and i never got that so now i must protect that piece that’s still inside of me.
I hope you get better, i hope you work through things that make you as horrible as a man that you are. And i hope you get the help you need. But i hope the most that if you and my mum stop contact, you NEVER go near another woman again, as nobody deserves the abuse that you subject everybody around you to.