I (21F) found out my boyfriend (21M) texted his ex back in January asking to meet up and told her he was single. Can our relationship still work out or is this the end of our relationship?
I went through my boyfriend's old phone yesterday
morning after he went to work and I found a screenshot of him reaching out to his ex on discord. For context my boyfriend and I have been together since January 18th of this year. He texted her at 3am on January 24th. He and his ex were together for a year and a half and lived together for a year. She was his first in every aspect, including his first love. The conversation lasted about an hour, he told her he wanted to make things right by becoming friends, he tried to get her to call and to meet up. He even told her he was single. I confronted my boyfriend about this and after a long discussion I sort of understand why he texted her. He says he was trying to in a sense "set her up". He wanted to meet up with her and thank her for everything and for making him the man he is today, then he claimed was going to start bragging about how good his life is and that he was going to tell her about me and show me off and brag that I'm prettier than her.
Essentially he just wanted trap her to be able to brag and show off. He seemed really regretful when he confessed this all to me, he admitted to being petty for doing so, and said he was never planning on telling me because he thought I would leave him for it. I believe him in that sense, what's difficult for me to accept is how much of an impact she has had on his life. They have been broken up for 2 years now and to this day she is still being brought up. I know my boyfriend is a good person, just immature.
He is still young. I told him he is too used to constantly being in a relationship/situation and that he needs to be single for a while. We have spend all of the day together yesterday and I even missed work so we can talk about everything. I love him so much but I also feel that if I st this problem will keep coming up. I know I missed a few things/context I’m just tired and emotionally drained. Feel free to ask any questions.