I drew a hard line. I gave him a few days to decide, but said I'd be leaving if he didn't choose to commit to our marriage. He didn't, so I left. He knew what he wanted, he just didn't have the balls to make it happen, so I had to.
They are now rewriting the narrative (the marriage was already over - though no one told me that 🤷♀️) and doubling down on the fact that they're *just friends*, but no one is buying it. You don't let your wife of almost a decade walk away over just a friend. If she sticks around long enough for them to be in a relationship, then it'll be "oh, she was such a supportive friend during my separation/divorce..." From what I hear he doesn't really know her at all, but that's his problem now.
I feel like I'm coming out of a fog and am becoming aware of things that I either didn't see or blocked out at the time. Suffice it to say I haven't been treated well in a while.
Now it's time to move forward (heal, grieve, etc).
Thanks for all the advice on my last post. 🩷