Earthly solutions have run out , now it feels like the matter is left to the sky. Complaining to anyone other than God can feel humiliating, but I thought I would write here as a last option , maybe I can find an idea, advice, or a different perspective.
I have been living in Berlin for 11 years. I live alone, and I don’t have family here. One of the hardest things for me has been finding a life partner. Honestly, it has been much more difficult than I ever expected.
I have tried different ways: going out, trying to meet new people, being more social, and putting myself out there. But people here often feel closed off and hard to approach. I also tried serious dating apps like Hinge, but nothing really worked.
Sometimes it feels like many people expect perfection: someone attractive, fit, confident, funny, creative, successful, financially stable, and emotionally perfect all at once. Normal human conversations like “Hi, how are you?” don’t seem to work anymore. Social media and dating apps have made everything feel more complicated and less natural.
I have also seen many good men struggling with the same issue, while men who treat women badly somehow seem to get more chances. I don’t understand how people in Berlin meet their partners naturally, especially outside clubs and bars, because I don’t really enjoy that scene.
My workplace and social circle also don’t really give me opportunities to meet women.
I’m writing this with honesty and vulnerability, not to attack anyone. I hope people can understand the topic without mocking or judging. Any sincere advice or personal experience would be appreciated.