We, 36M 35F now, have been trying for a baby since 2021 when we lost our 9 day old boy due to being delivered at 24 weeks for placental abruption. Since then we have been asking god for a baby and have been trying. With all PTSD from that pregnancy, it has been hard from both our sides. So in 2025, we opted for ivf.
After first 2 single embryo transfer fails, we recently had a double embryo transfer (our worst graded and last embryos) in early March. We found out that we were pregnant and saw one baby during the 7 weeks scan. The other embryo did not work.
Last week at 11 week scan, we saw two babies in one placenta and one sac at ivf doctors office. They immediately referred us to an obgyn and MFM due to suspected mono mono twins.
We had our nipt blood drawn and then had a detailed ultrasound for 45 mins at MFM office last Friday. Both twins had hr over 170. After the ultrasound tech was done in 45 mins, we were waiting for doctor for more than 40 mins. We knew something was wrong.
The doctor came in and vouched 100% that it’s mono mono.
And on top of this, twin b was found to have cystic hygroma (did not measure) with mild body wall edema. He said that twin has high chance of genetic abnormalities. And if the twin has it, the other twin is in the same boat.
He said that that twin is at high risk of death.
He recommended cvs or amniocentesis. But her placenta being anterior and having past history of placental abruption, we are not prepared to consider this option.
From being happy on that Friday at 10:10 am, we were devastated by 11 am. We don’t know what gods plan is, but my wife is one of the kindest person I have ever seen and she does not deserve this. We have been trying to navigate through this hard time and we are unsure about all the unknowns. Have been bearing myself down for letting her and my twins down. It feels like my wife and I both were brought into this world so that we could suffer.
Has anybody gone through something similar? Would like your prayers for the twins and for us. Thanks for reading.