So one of my partners doesn’t want to do kitchen table, so what now?
One of my partners (lets call him Mario), have made it clear today that « He doesn’t like being the side piece » in any particular social situation and that he doesn’t like spending time with my partner(s).
This is heartbreaking for me, it is one of my biggest joys in life when my partners interact with each other and seeing my partner interact with their partners as well.
The situation seems to be shifting from me being part of a polycule to me having a second seperate family basically.
I have my own version of « i can fix him » which is kind of like « with time he will feel secure enough because of the overwhelming amount of validation i provide ».
But honestly? It’s quite naive / delusional of me to think my relationship with someone will change them in exactly the direction I want.
And i’ve come to notice, that with my nesting partner, lets call him Jim, i kind of simply accepted him for who he at the end, and the things i wanted to « fix », i didn’t end up fixing at all.
So now i feel like i’m at a crossroads and a decision that will influence a lot how my life will look like is being made for me, and it’s too big of a deal for me to accept.
Anyone here been in a similar situation ?