I want to live somewhere similar to Louisiana. I've heard it's one of a kind from several people I've talked to, but I wanted to get your opinions. Is there anywhere else you've lived that feels similar to home?
First off, I'm worried about my nephew. He is 7 and has been newly diagnosed with autism but has been obviously autistic since like age 2 and a half. His father pretty much does the bare minimum of any involvement to the point where this man doesn't even work a job and still has his mom watch the kid all day everyday except weekends when his wife is off. So for some reason no one wanted to say anything and make it "real" that his kid needed an intervention until he noticed himself so that way he would take it seriously I guess??? So the kid finally got to the doctor and yes big shocker, he's autistic.. Honestly, if I could I would yeet the dad across the country because everyone in the family is pretty much tired of his existence yet still caters to him like a princess for the sake of his wife, who pretty much relies on everyone else to compensate for her husbands failure of a life. She can't drive and even when her husband has a car he won't take her anywhere. If someone could tell this woman and her husband no for once, Maybe theyd be forced to do something productive for themselves long-term but the enablement is insanity so I imagine it'll be like this until her parents kick the bucket. Me and my partner get asked for stuff too but try to say no unless there's been a manipulation tactic used to put us on the spot which usually involves asking the stuff in person and proceeding to tell us how panicky she was asking to make us feel bad. She usually is making fake promises to make us feel like we're gonna get paid back or we owe her for her consideration to come up with yet another fake promise she took a whole 5 minutes conjuring up knowing well she's not gonna do it and come up with an excuse which is fine bc she's used to being able to use and use and take and take with no consequences. She does try to an extent for her kid.. or at least claims to.. I'm not around her at her house so I don't know how she does with her kid at her house but it seems like when she's here she just warns him for doing something wrong (I don't mean him exhibiting an autistic symptom like an emotional regulation problem, stimming, etc. I mean like a normal kid behavior that needs to be corrected) and keeps threatening a punishment over and over again to never enforce it. The same goes for the kids grandma whose made to watch him everyday while the kids dad stays home and games. Except she actually just yells at him and tells him to shut up for autistic stimming and emotional excitement as well so it probably confuses him to death. He doesn't know what's actually wrong because he either gets yelled at for everything, or he gets the allowance to do whatever with absolutely no consequences so there's no consistency. Plus the warning for timeout with it actually happening 1 in 1,000,000,000 times.
As you can imagine, the kid is insufferable and it's not really his fault because he's being raised to be someone that no one wants to be around for 5 seconds. (His autism symptoms are definitely rough but that's not what causes him to be insufferable honestly. Most people can empathize with his symptoms other than the one in charge of watching him apparently) They think it's funny when he shows psychopathic behavior though and makes the whole trashy "lol my little psychopath kid" comment like yeah so cute your child murdered your pets omg how adorable.
I am currently at my wits end watching this happen. The kid's raising, the deadbeat father/husband, but no one will ever say anything and the damage just keeps continuing. I'm at a bit of a wits end with everyone else involved as well and the way this has been kept in for so long except between me and my partner.... I need some validation for my anger man. I hope this kid gets the help he really needs and some sort of structure one day..
We're moving far away and cutting everyone off, because staying around where we're gonna be the next sugar daddy once the grandma and Grandpa die is not an option for us. AIO?
I'm not sure what it's called, but it started when my mom used to tease me as a little kid by opening her eyes really wide and tilting her head while speaking slow and weird. Like it triggered some sort of phobia where anytime I see the eyes by themselves with the rest of a face covered...or wide open (voluntarily or pried) I will go into a major panic state. Sometimes I freeze up and can't breathe, other times I will start hyperventilating. I watched a Korean show without knowing about a torture scene where they pried the people's eyes open and did sleep deprivation torture. It kick-started my phobia all over again where I went to work the next week with the images flashing in my mind periodically. And now it's gotten so bad, certain eye shapes or people with expressive eyes will trigger that panic. WHAT THE HECK lol