Has anyone had real success?
My husband and I are both pushing our 60s. I recently found out he’s been having an affair for a year and a half with a coworker. She is in her late 30s. He didn’t tell me, I found out. When I confronted him he lied about how involved they were and for how long. I kept finding out more and more and he kept not being honest about it. He left the house for about two months but we’ve agreed to try and make the marriage work. He ended things with her- blocked and deleted her number, and I’m keeping an eye on all of his devices. We both started therapy but I still have reservations. He took her on a couple trips, bought her jewelry, helped her financially, had a key to her apartment and told her he loved her. I want to believe he’s committed to making this marriage work and he’s been taking the steps to do that but I still have my doubts. I wouldn’t say we were particularly happy before this. We’ve had separate rooms for about decade and really have just been going through the motions after being together for 37 years. But I never wanted to not be together. Has anyone made it through such a deep affair and been happy in their marriage? I feel so hurt and betrayed.