How do I (19f) tell my mother (53f) I’m changing my name ?
I (19f) have hated my name since I could talk and have decided it’s time to finally change it. I’ve always been very vocal about not liking it and planning to change it, which usually upset my mother (53f), and usually ended in her claiming I was calling her a terrible mother. Our relationship has improved since moving out, but I’m still nervous to tell her and don’t know how to go about it, please give me some ideas on what I can say, how I can bring it up etc.
Extra info :
-my name has no meaning, she just picked it out of a baby name book
-I went by a nickname my friends gave me when I was 14/15, she was annoyed and refused to call me it
-I vaguely remember her not wanting to call me anything other than my birth name until I was 18 and old enough to decide in her eyes, but I’m not sure if she actually said she would respect it and call me something else
-I was always polite when talking about how I hated my name, I’d use more polite wording ie “I’ve never felt like it fit me and it’s just not for me” as opposed to “I hate hearing my name and it makes me want to gag”, I always was conscious to not blame her