Long distance and my mother are making dating life difficult for me.
There’s this guy I really like. We met in college and started reconnecting recently. He used to visit me when I lived alone but now I am back with my mother due to financial issues, it was hard for him to see me. Luckily, she is helping me with financial support and I am thankful but it makes it very hard to do things on my own. Since I don’t have a job right now, I can’t afford to travel and he can’t afford to pay for my ticket either. We have discussed moving in together or at least in the same city. However, he lives in a very expensive city.
This weekend we were supposed to see each other. I bought a $300 bus ticket for a day trip that was a fourteen hour bus ride there and back. When I told my mom, she freaked out. She thought it was ridiculous to spend $300 on a bus ticket that was a long ride for just a day. She advised to me I should cancel the trip and get my money back, but the problem is it was a bus ticket and they don’t do refunds. Luckily, I got a voucher instead and I could get another ticket for longer days with him.
When I told him I canceled the bus ticket and apologized, he seemed okay with it but I could tell he was really hurt and wanted to see me. I explained to him I couldn’t afford a $300 bus ticket and a lot of the things we would be doing on the weekend would be expensive. I texted him today and he hasn’t responded. I wonder if he’s mad at me and I feel really bad. I feel like he doesn’t understand that I’m broke.
I also don’t feel comfortable moving in with someone I just started seeing. He also didn’t seem like he would move to my state for me either. He was fine visiting me when I was by myself but now that I live with my mom he only wants me to visit him. I told him my mom is cool with him staying over as long as he slept on the couch.
Should I just give up and move on?