To start this off this is about my aunts boyfriend always thought of him as an uncle, I have known this man for basically my whole life. I can’t remember a time without him. A few years ago when I was either 18 or under age, he grazed my bum and I just gaslighted myself as I thought there’s noway he can do this. Until now I’m 22 and a month ago at my auntie‘s party he was openly flirting with me. He was saying things like you’re so beautiful. Oh wow, I love your hair. I love what you’re wearing. Look at me up and down overly complimenting for like three minutes straight until he said aw you’re gonna think I’m a creep now aren’t you and I said oh no of course not and he gave me a hug and I felt his hand to touch my bum again. I know I should’ve called him out then and there, but I really struggled to even believe he done this. He’s basically an uncle to me and been in a relationship with my auntie my whole life. A week after the party we had another family gathering. It was at a horse race we were sitting at different tables luckily. When I seen him, I started crying uncontrollably, I also felt this intense, anxiety and panic. I haven’t seen him since but I’m really stuck on how to deal with this moving forward. This is my family and I feel like he’s ruined any event in the future. (I wrote this post a few months ago in a different sub so now I have an update)
So update is my aunt found out, my mam and other auntie told her. She apparently got annoyed at him for a bit but is back with him now. My cousin had a home coming lunch the other day in said aunts house and I couldn’t attended since creep uncle would be there. But the tea is my mam, aunt and creep all had a discussion about it. Creep said oh I never done that I can’t believe I’m saying this about him I must have misunderstood and took it up the wrong way he’d never think of me in that way. Gag is he’s been creepy for way longer than I thought and aunts kids had to intervene before. So my mam said my aunt shouted calling him a liar saying I’d never make something up like this. Anyway apparently my mam told him to come down to the house and apologise to me. I asked like what’s the apology going to be just him gaslighting me until I say it’s fine. It’s never going to be fine like no apology can make me gain respect for this man, especially one where he’s going to tell me I misunderstood or he acts different when he’s drinking. My mam is convincing me to let him come over and apologise saying like ah he was drinking and he’s not that bad he does seem sorry whatever. I said no and if you let him anywhere near this house I’m not speaking to you again (She would spring something like this on me ino I was harsh). Also after the creepy incident my mam and auntie still went out for drinks with him and aunt which hurt a bit, since it felt like they were just letting it slide its a tough situation I understand so I wasn’t exactly pissed off.
Anyway the reason I’m making this is because in like 2 weeks it’s my little cousins confirmation (my actual uncles son) and you wouldn’t believe who’s the sponsor is… creep himself of course. So he’s definitely gonna be there and I kind of have to go. I have a feeling he’s going to approach me to apologise at it too. So guys please tell me do I accept the apology or tell him to shove it.