This guy I like is usually hyper/goofy/silly with people but with me he talks quiet seriously I’m worried it bores him. We also have a laugh and read each other really well but we can talk quiet seriously
I (25F) have a very close guy friend and I genuinely cannot tell if this is a deep friendship or if there are feelings involved. We’ve known each other for years but recently the dynamic has shifted massively.
We text basically every day, call each other, and he checks in on me constantly in ways that feel sometimes intimate. We have this weird unspoken understanding where we both notice each other’s moods instantly, remember tiny details about each other, and constantly reference old conversations/moments indirectly without fully saying it outright. Just different stuff im noticing
For example:
if I’m out he asks where I’m going/who I’m with
he remembers tiny details about me
he told me “I wish you were here” on a night out I wasn’t even supposed to attend and said “I always feel weird going out without you”
He also sends me random videos he’s taken of me laughing about them
There’s also a LOT of physical tension:
he gets really flustered around me physically
I asked him to tie my bracelet once and his hands were literally shaking, he told me not to look at him because he “couldn’t do it” with me watching
afterwards he avoided me for a bit and seemed overwhelmed
he stares at me across rooms and I’ve caught him fully looking me up and down
we kissed once drunk months ago and never discussed it again
On nights out if I talk to another guy he starts acting weird/distant
he seems jealous but subtle about it
he watches my reactions to other girls
once another girl rested her head on his shoulder and he randomly called my name immediately after even though we weren’t talking just so I would see her on him
BUT here’s the thing confusing me:
A lot of people think he’s gay. He has mostly female friends, can be flamboyant/socially fluid, has no real dating history. He also avoids direct romantic conversations with me and never fully crosses the line.
So I genuinely can’t tell:
does this sound like a man with feelings who is scared?
is this emotional intimacy without romance?
or am I completely delusional and overreading a friendship?
Would love honest opinions because I feel like I’m losing perspective.