“I’m 2 hours postpartum and my husband wants to take a trip with his buddies”
“I haven’t taken a shower /washed my hair in 2 weeks because of my baby but my husband goes out every night”
“I just delivered a baby but my husband might be more tired than I am because he slept on the couch in the room ”
“Husband plays 18 holes of golf every Saturday and I haven’t gone out by myself in 2 years”
Girl if you don’t start being mean af to that man. I think we have swung too far with empathy and you need to be mean to that man. Men find it really hard to empathize because society lets them skate by with poor empathy skills so you sometimes need to spell out what they need to do.
Doesn’t matter how many hours he works - he would still need to work if he didn’t have kids. Stop trying to be a cool wife and call him out on his bullshit. Be comfortable saying ‘no you can’t go’. Motherhood is already hard enough without all that.
Rant over.
Edit: I didn’t mean for this post to get so blown up; I thought a few people would find it funny. I’m being reminded via DM that not everyone can afford to do this due to abuse, poverty and genuine lack of options. I empathize with you guys deeply and I hope things get better.