Gf dumps me over moral/philosophical question
I [24M] have been seeing my partner [24F] for almost a year and officially bf and gf for 8 months.
We’ve been doing long distance for the entirety of the 8 months and obviously grown very close and are in love. The only issues we’ve had were over the long distance.
Today is the day before my birthday. I found out earlier that a close friend who helped me through a tough period went into cardiac arrest and is likely going to pass and I’ve been in shock from it.
I told my gf and she was very supportive and consoling. But was still was saying how excited she was for my birthday etc.
Anyway we were on the phone and she brought up that some influencer got caught with CP and how there’s big controversy and we were talking about disgusting and abhorrent it is. I made a comment about how it’s even more fucked can’t control it.
Then she made a comment about how child predators and anyone with attraction to children should be “eliminated.”
And I was like “wait like the death penalty” and she said yes. I said that I don’t believe in the death penalty even though what they do is the worst thing ever and she was appalled and broke up with me because of a misalignment of morals. She was saying “what is wrong with you,” “extending grace to monsters,” saying I have rigid ideas for not believing in the death penalty (even though she is the one breaking up with me), and saying i dont think its a serious enough issue if I can sit here and say a pedophile doesn’t deserve to be killed because it’s “state sanctioned.”
Idk it almost like she’s interpreted it as me saying I should get off Scott free when I said multiple times that it is the most reprehensible thing someone can do, and they should get life in prison where they’re probably tortured.
I also was like “we’ve been together for a year you know who I am as a person, you know my morals and how I treat people, you’ve been saying that you want to get married/see us getting married one day and that I check the boxes for character traits that you want a long term husband should have. Yes while this is a serious moral/philosophical question I do not think it means we are morally incompatible.”
What a great birthday!! My friend might die and my gf abruptly broke up with me for expressing an opinion that practically every western democracy shares!
I mean I do understand it’s an incredibly serious subject l just don’t get how someone can end things like this when you know me so well.