Hello.
I will admit in the past I have spent far too much time on the computer playing games and whatnot. And when my partner and I got together, they said they did not want to be married to someone who sits on a computer all day. Which is absolutely fine, totally get it.
We have gotten into arguments about me spending time on the computer before and no mater what I say it always turns around to me being sad or addicted. I try to explain most of my hobbies are computer based. I play games, watch movies, shows, like looking things up, and learning new things, and shopping around diferent stores.
And more I have some very close friends that I can only really talk to via discord. One of which my partner has met in person.
But recently my partner told me that I'm spending to much time on it and need to stop because it's straining our relationship. So i agreed my hobbies are not more important than our relationship so he limited me to about 2 hours a day. I usualy did about 4 doing various things so that's not a huge deal.
But I was looking up some boxers to buy today and he asked if I was using my two hours now. And then he confirmed that any them onthe computer at all counted towards it. Now I am not a very good multi tasker. So now I feel like I have to choose between playing a game, watching a show, learning new things, or talking to my friends because I genuinly can't do more than 1 of them at a time.
I explained that to them and they said I was being dramatic, it's sad, it's pathetic, and I'm addicted.
I feel like I make a lot of compromises for them and they don't really make any for me. I just want to be able to enjoy my hobbies and not be made to feel bad for it. It does not interfere with work, or house work, or spending time with them. I try to spend time with them a lot by they always so no because they don't really like doing the things I suggest (going for walks, going to the movies, visiting a museum) they are more about pub and social type.
So I got a little upset and it turned into an argument.
So, am I asking to much? Am I the ass hole?