AITA For wanting my bf to text more and respond to my texts
Me and my bf have been together over a year now. This has been a constant peeve of mine he does. He constantly skips over some of my texts, (ex. If I’m texting him while he’s at work and can’t reply, when he has time later he ignores half of them). I’ve brought it up several times before to him and it always leads into a heavy argument about me “always being upset over something.” Which isn’t the case, I don’t try to get upset easily or it be over “nothing,” half the time it isn’t “nothing” to me and try to explain that. We see each other max once a week and only have texting as our way of communicating during the other days. This is due to our conflicting schedules in work, I work days, he works afternoons. I completely understand this and know sometimes it’ll be awhile before he responds or vice versa and I let him know when I might be busy and take longer. But he’s ignored me for nearly three days over a video game, he doesn’t set time aside to even check in, it’s HOURS later, I’m talking 4-7 hours later. During this time it’s normally his time off after work and mine. I understand needing “me” time I need it too, I have hobbies. But I make sure to check in and set time aside because since our schedules are SO different, while we’re awake at the same time (which is only maybe 8 hours) I try to talk to him as much as possible since itll be hours until we get to again.
He’s now upset because he apparently“can’t have hobbies” because I got upset I didn’t hear from him at all last night while he was gaming (both of our days off but we unfortunately couldnt see each other) and keeps saying that he’s “good with only seeing each other once a week” which by the way he’s like not even 20 minutes away. So he’s super pissed at me and keeps telling me I hate seeing him happy and that I’m too sensitive and should “have more life experience before getting angry over this.” Again I’ve explained to him it’s about how I don’t hear from him for hours while it’s our chance to talk, it’s not only days off, it’s a good chunk of all other days. But now I’m the one who’s “always mad about something and obviously hate being with him.” I don’t really know what to do here. I understand everyone needs their own time, but I see a future with him and want to bring him into my time too, I want him to feel like he’s apart of my life while we can’t see each other, yet he doesn’t show me he cares for it, but likes to tell me that too. Oh and to add, if I don’t text him for 2 hours max I get a text asking “what’s wrong?” But as soon as I finally text over 4 hours later asking what he’s been up to and why I haven’t heard from him I apparently “kick him while he’s down.” He says my favourite thing to do is cause arguments.
To be clear this does have some deeper context and has gone on awhile, some other stuff we’ve argued about, but this is what’s happening literally right now lol
So am I in the wrong? Am I too sensitive? Too needy? Not understanding?