AITAH For being upset about Mother's Day
I (39F) am the mother of 3 children. I have R(stepchild 11F) A(bio 10F) and J(bio 2M). I am in a custody battle for A presently and her father kept her from me for Mother's day. R lives with her bio Mom. This is also my first year being NC with my own Mother. For Mother's day, my husband (43M) gave me the toddlers breakfast (a plate of fruit and a stack of pancakes with bacon). It is well known in my house that I don't like pancakes/waffles/French toast and get eggs instead. After a disappointing breakfast that I didn't even eat, my husband told me to order and pay for a coffee so he could pick it up for me. After this I found out that was it ... There was no more to Mother's day.
When I asked if he really hadn't done anything for me he handed me a metal bucket with a metal flower and 2 garden tools in it and said "Your kids aren't even here." Now he says that me crying all day is disrespectful and that he "really tried". He eventually brought me an egg scramble for "lunch". When I asked him why there was no outing or daytime plan he said he had wanted to take me for a hike, but I had reminded him a week ago that I am disabled (sacroilitis on my right side with severe arthritis in both hips and knees... In constant pain but still had to remind him?), so he scrapped that plan. I asked him why he hadn't come up with anything else and he said "You can't walk, what am I supposed to do with you?" He maintains that he gave this effort. Am I the AH?