Bit nervous to post here but I’ve been lurking for a while and it seems like a very warm community.
Married couple, in our 40’s parents of two adult adopted children ( from foster care, when they were teens.) We truly didn’t think that bio kids were in our future, ( we were quite happy completing our family via adoption) but now that adopted children have moved into adult life and don’t have much contact with us, it feels like we are missing a part of life. We knew they had abuse / neglect / drug exposure in childhood that caused them to have attachment issues but we had hoped that many years of consistent love would over come it, but now that we only really hear from them once a year or so, we have accepted that we were just a safe harbor for a while.
We want to be honest with our GC, but are concerned that our situation will read “ they are bad parents and that’s why the kids don’t stay in contact.” We are concerned that this, couple with the fact that we are older, might turn GCs away from us.
so, opinions please, would this make you think twice about carrying for us ?