Hello so my girlfriend brought up that she wanted to get married by 30 about a month ago. We’ve been dating for over 2 years now and we’ve talked about getting married before this. I do see myself marrying her, but not at that time frame.
I’m currently finishing up my second year of undergrad pursuing a BS in civil engineering. Based on fastest way I can do it, I need at least 3 more years to finish. I’m not worried about if it will take longer, but the debt I will accumulate at the end. I expect possibly 30k-40k in debt(hopefully less).
It isn’t the being married part that is stopping me from this, it’s the costs of the celebration. I don’t exactly feel comfortable spending a lot of money when I already have that debt to pay off. I’ll be 27 by the time I graduate so maybe I can do it, but what if I don’t?
I don’t know if it’s a realistic goal but I would like to at least pay my debt off and have at least double or even triple saved of what the cost of the celebration would be. Is this a ridiculous way to look at it? I can see myself being ready by that timeframe.
I lived with financial insecurity my whole life and I just don’t want to start our marriage in a financial hole. I told her my concerns on it and she just told me to figure it out. I don’t know if I’m exaggerating my thought process on it. It wasn’t a deep conversation, but whenever we talk about it again I would like to dig deeper to see if me and her can get a better understanding of each other.