Not sure what I should do about a girl I’ve been talking to for a few months, might end things?
So I’ve been talking to a coworker of mine for a few months now, and things are starting to take a turn. I (22m) and my coworker (27f) started hooking up about two months after I had gotten out of a 4 year relationship (yes I know not the best idea), everything started out great, but soon developed into basically a full bf/gf relationship just without the title. We talked for a few months and the sex was great, vibes were good, and everything was headed in the right direction. Went to a concert together, took her on really nice dates including a spa day that was several hundred dollars, and was overall treating her really well.
Then I started to catch some feelings. She recognized this decently quickly and after a while sat me down and had a conversation with me basically saying she wasn’t ready for a full relationship with me, but that she was still cool continuing doing what we were doing and still being exclusive.
This was somewhat of a shock to me, although I could kinda feel it coming. In that convo she also said she needed more space from me and thought seeing each other almost every day was too much including how we’re coworkers.
Fast forward a few weeks and I can feel her interest in me decreasing. Hardly responding to me (at least until a few hrs later), dry conversations, the choice of language she’s using, and we haven’t been intimate in almost two weeks.
I guess really I’m deciding how to end things. I don’t want to be investing my time, money, energy, and passion into someone who’s not reciprocating it, and I don’t want to look stupid when she finally decides she’s done. Any advice on how to end things and remain cordial and friendly at work?
(Ps yes I know I’m a bit of a lover boy)