u/Battlemaster420

I (24M) have a brother (29M) who is currently living with me after he was fired from his old job. I technically invited him, but ur parents kind of forced me to let him move in. I was a bit skeptical of it, besides me not being excited to share a room with my brother, which kind of kneecaps your dating life that I was intending to start after a difficult breakup, I know that he doesn't share my fastidious nature.

Anyhow, for the first month he was workless and spent most of the time making my pristine living room more akin to a bombsite than anything else. That's not to say I don't love him as a brother, just that we aren't domestically suited with each other unless his (our) mom is there to act as a foreman.

He eventually got a new job so he was paying half the rent, so it was going fine for a while, both due to the much welcome relief of the house which was quite expensive without my girlfriend to pay half of the costs, but also due to the fact that he didn't have as much time to make all spaces he occupied a mess. Then he invited himself to a trip to Paris (a worktrip that I was planning to extend from a day to a week). I thought that not inviting him would be enough of a hint, but within hours of mentioning it he had booked tickets on the same plane, and told it to me like I was supposed to be happy about it. Again, I don't dislike my brother but living with him had built up some animosity and I was excited to get some time for myself. I eventually caved and rebooked the hotel room to a two person room. He said he was planning to pay me back, and I'm sure he intended to and was just excited to spend time with his brother in Paris.

Two months ago he was caught smoking a jazz cigarette on company property (that being his office) and was fired on the spot. This meant that I now not only needed to pay for his hotel, food and everything else on the trip, but also the whole rent. It was entirely his fault as well, I don't care about him smoking but doing it in your office is honestly embarrassingly dumb.

As it were, when we finally travelled to Paris I was both quite irritated at my brother, and in close to complete control of where we went. Combining these two facts led me to the decision to take my brother to the highest point in Paris. Fr context, my brother has a very strong agrophobia, he fell of a ladder when he was five and ever since, even bringing up fixing something on a roof, white chalk for climbers, and trees with branches that are "too low" as he calls it makes him go stiff.

I was intending to take him there, walk into the elevator, and when he saw the number I pressed I would pretend to have forgotten about his phobia and then take the elevator down again. As you can surmise from the title this was not what happened. Instead he just stood there, looking at me until we came up. He walked to the ledge, looked at me again and took the lift down without saying a word. Later I got a call from my parents who were very disappointed in me, and my brother did not initiate any conversations for the remainder of the trip. It has been a week now and he is still mad and I'm convinced that he has stopped looking for new jobs (which to his credit he spent a large amount of time doing before) in some kind of futile protest against me. Is he overreacting? Did I go too far? AITAH

TL;DR My brother who lives in my house and doesn't pay rent came with me on my paris trip (on my paycheck) and I gave him a little scare. Now he's acting all fussy about it, AITAH?

EDIT: Apparently I was wrong about the name of the phobia, I only ever heard him pronounce it, it's acrophobia.