Generally curious on if a small gold nose hoop is appropriate for PE/finance in general? My first day at a megafund is tomorrow (came from big 4 where no one seemed to care about it/I was client facing), and wondering if I should take it out?
My boyfriend (28M) and I (27F) have been together since early college, so we’ve basically grown up together. He’s kind, loyal, and has always supported me (he’s moved cities multiple times for my school and career, including our recent move to NYC for my new job).
The issue is I feel like I’ve grown up a lot… and he hasn’t in the same way. I’ve worked really hard on my career (grad school, CPA, demanding job) and now make about 3x what he does. He works hard at his job too, but it’s not high-paying or growth-focused, and while he SAYS he’s motivated to change it, his actions dont really align. He says he’s applying to jobs, but it feels like minimal effort (if I were in his position, I’d be busting my butt to get interviews lined up left and right in the city).
Outside of work, he does spend a lot of time smoking weed / playing video games. I don’t care that he does those things, but the amount bothers me given where he’s at. When I bring it up, it improves briefly, then goes back. Financially and in day-to-day life, I feel like I’m carrying a lot, obviously I cover more expenses (which I’d expect given I earn more), but also handle most household stuff, and even help with his resume and job search. I’m pretty much as type A as they come, and he is very type B.
He’s a genuinely good person, which makes this hard. But sometimes I look at him and feel like he’s still the same guy I met at 20, just older. I should be excited about engagement soon, but instead I feel anxious (not just about money, but about whether we’re aligned on ambition and responsibility long-term…also obviously money).
Part of me feels guilty for even thinking this way, but another part feels like I’ve worked really hard to build stability and I’m scared of taking on everything forever. Truthfully I feel a mix of frustration and also guilt for havin these thoughts about someone I love so much.
Has anyone been in a similar situation where one partner grew faster than the other?