I’m American citizen and my BF is not. We’ve been together for 2 years, he is 25 and I’m 35. The relationship was always rocky because he and I don’t see things eye to eye but I always tried to be more understanding since he is younger. And he always get into trouble like needing money for visa application, lawyer and etc. he even borrowed some money friend friends and church people.
He is barely floating and I thought of marrying him but I am always hesitant because he doesn’t want to know my friend because he isn’t out yet and he always hit me up when he needed help or when he lost his job or something bad happened he would come to me for comfort….. when I was really sick he didn’t visit me (I live an hour train ride from him) ….. he just say I prayed for you and I’m too poor to come. But I will see him go play badminton with friends which requires money.
Recently he have exhausted borrowing money from people and my job is becoming unstable due to lay offs. He needed 5000 and he told me he will do onlyfan and when I refused, we argued…. Than he have the audacity to ask if I knew anyone he can sleep with for money.
I understand he is in need of money but I was so triggered that I ended things. I feel so cruel but at the same time I felt like this is the right path…. The sad part is I have the money to help him but I am also taking care of my mother and sister… I just felt like if I should have helped
Sorry I think I’m just really emotional