I 20F have known this so called friend 23M I'll call them L only a few months we met in a youth group our friendship has been okay in hindsight there was red flags plainly visible but yeah sometimes we underestimate truly how shitty people can be.
It all started when they noticed I'm closer to another person from youth let's call them B 23M so they began at first pushing between us , "joking" to drive away and let me walk home if i kept on talking so long to B stupid (once when they vaguely "jokingly" threatened me like this someone important in our church saw and was pissed off and offered me to drive with them or B's parents) thing's like that it just kept escalating slowly and i didn't see the red flags of how controlling , jealous and weird they where becoming ...Also don't think gave them any hope or ideas i didn't i set my boundaries but apparently not clear enough maybe because i asked for a lift a few times (there where always at least 2 other people in the car) and was polite they though i was playing hard to get.
Fast forward to now i arranged to drive with B to a service as some of the ladies i went with was away for the weekend and guess what? L found out and called B saying i should rather drive with their parents they probably talked other shit but B tried to play it off in a way not to upset me but L's dumb ass called me admitting it was them i didn't go i muted my notifications and i have been crashing out because now i know the have been skewing up things behind the scenes driving wedges making trouble between me and B i also wouldn't be surprised with how crazy L has acted that they may have lied to B that we are together but i think B is starting to realize something is wrong if they come to me at some point about this situation I'm telling them to grow a spine and to stop being a chronic people pleaser because they have no reason to be scared of anything L could do because their family has a stronger standing and more hold than L's.
(More info - while acting like I'm theirs they where literally in a on and off with another girl and they where running after her like a weird simp so they where trying to stake a claim to me while still actively entangled with someone else just eww.)
I've decided to fully distance myself from L and I'm also going to drive with other people from now on... i feel so betrayed and pissed off I'm not their wife or possession they can't just make choices for me and mix into my affairs however they please it's so gross.....i also feel guilty for not putting my foot down sooner i feel like to a point this is all my fault for not putting my foot down for not being harsher and ending the situation with L earlier ....maybe then thing's with me and B would have been better now.....I'm such a blind idiot...