u/Basic-Sleep-4955

My crush of four years and I have mutual friend, but he's been friends with her since childhood since their families know each other.

They'd been dating in past, but broke up and stayed friends. Except their families and almost everybody ship them and claim them to be a couple.

Today I found out that this friend thinks that he'll get back to her and everything will be fine. Turns out all this time she thought that they're meant to be and he'll eventually crawl back to her.

And I don't want to be a bad friend, but I'm head over heels for this guy.

Everybody around think they would be better together and they should date. His family fully accepts her as a member of family and so does her family.

Maybe I shouldn't have even fallen for him in the first place? Maybe I should've just cut it out at the first stages? Should I just try to get over him now and leave them alone to be together?

So... For four years now I've been really interested in that guy, but at first I thought it was in a friendly way. Like he's nice and handsome, and really funny and so on, and he's not like other guys I know.

The thing is we have a mutual friend, who he used to date in the past (when they were like 12-13 like), but turned out they are distant relatives and now they're just best friends.

And I have a feeling that our mutual friend either treats him like a prtective sister or still has feelings for him, sort of protecting him from any other girls.

That's why she doesn't know I like him, though she might've picked up on it from my behaviour. And ever since I started to suspect that she found out, I noticed that she sort of draws the line between me and my crush.

He also had negative experience in his previous relationship (the one after he dated our friend) when his gf openly cheated on him and still blamed their break up on him, she was causing him troubles for around half a year since they broke up. And maybe that's why our mutual friend is protective of him, not wanting him to get hurt again.

I feel that recently me and my crush has gotten a little closer to each other, like almost good friends. But I can't help but feel like he's just being polite talking to me and treating me nicely. I don't want to misread his actions, and maybe I'm just not used to a guy treating me fine so all that he does feels so unfamiliar and I'm just confusing it with him having something for me as well.

And that's when our mutual frined steps up. Everytime I bring up so.ething about my crush, she just says something like "Ok, got it" in a tone that makes me feel like I shouldn't have said it at all. And if she knows I like him, that's even more concerning cause it looks like she really against me liking him.

I just don't know what to do! Should I like try to get closer to my crush becaus eI want to, or should I step away because of our friend? I really don't want to lose her, but I also don't want to be nothing with my crush

So... For four years now I've been really interested in that guy, but at first I thought it was in a friendly way. Like he's nice and handsome, and really funny and so on, and he's not like other guys I know.

The thing is we have a mutual friend, who he used to date in the past (when they were like 12-13 like), but turned out they are distant relatives and now they're just best friends.

And I have a feeling that our mutual friend either treats him like a prtective sister or still has feelings for him, sort of protecting him from any other girls.

That's why she doesn't know I like him, though she might've picked up on it from my behaviour. And ever since I started to suspect that she found out, I noticed that she sort of draws the line between me and my crush.

He also had negative experience in his previous relationship (the one after he dated our friend) when his gf openly cheated on him and still blamed their break up on him, she was causing him troubles for around half a year since they broke up. And maybe that's why our mutual friend is protective of him, not wanting him to get hurt again.

I feel that recently me and my crush has gotten a little closer to each other, like almost good friends. But I can't help but feel like he's just being polite talking to me and treating me nicely. I don't want to misread his actions, and maybe I'm just not used to a guy treating me fine so all that he does feels so unfamiliar and I'm just confusing it with him having something for me as well.

And that's when our mutual frined steps up. Everytime I bring up so.ething about my crush, she just says something like "Ok, got it" in a tone that makes me feel like I shouldn't have said it at all. And if she knows I like him, that's even more concerning cause it looks like she really against me liking him.

I just don't know what to do! Should I like try to get closer to my crush becaus eI want to, or should I step away because of our friend? I really don't want to lose her, but I also don't want to be nothing with my crush