I (24f) have been seeing (25m) for a bit over a month now. We both agreed that it was a causal fwb situation, but I’ve realised I’ve developed feelings for him. I feel like he may have feelings for me too but I really can’t tell. We generally see each other once a week and way he treats me when we’re together feels very boyfriend/girlfriendy, taking me out on dates, cuddling, forehead kisses, offering to give or let me borrow things, showering together, he even recently brushed my teeth for me. he does a lot of very emotionally intimate things with me and It’s starting to feel like a situationship almost.
The thing that confuses me and makes me anxious is the lack of communication outside of seeing each other. We don’t really text outside of occasional memes or making plans to see each other. During the times we’re not seeing each other and haven’t made future plans I get incredibly anxious that he’ll never message me again or try to make plans to see me.
I struggle with my mental health, particularly when I comes to dating, I tend to overthink, spiral and go into rumination loops about people. It’s started to happen with this guy and it’s making me extremely anxious. I’ve been in a rumination spiral for the last two days since I saw him, that I can’t figure out how to stop.
I do plan on telling him my feelings when I see him again, but I’m just currently spring about when/if I’ll actually see him again. I only saw him 2 days ago so we don’t have plans to see each other again yet. I also don’t feel like I can ask him to communicate with me outside of seeing each other more because “it’s just casual” and anytime I’ve tried to message him more it eventually fizzles.
I honestly don’t know what to do about the whole situation, I feel like I’ve let it go too far and I’m so worried he won’t reciprocate my feelings and it’ll blow up in my face. I just wish I could know what he’s thinking.