I(26F) have been in a semi-long distance relationship with my bf(27M) for almost two years. We see each other every few weeks, and we both have kids so we bring our kids over about every other trip.
I had my appendix removed this past weekend, which wrecked our plans to have an adults only trip to Disneyland this coming weekend. I was bummed but my bf was like “don’t worry! i’ll still come to see you and we’ll spend the weekend watching movies and cuddling. we never have just a lowkey trip together. we’re always busy with our boys or going out so it’ll be fun!” so… cool! he’s been hyping up this weekend to be a cute little weekend, &even though we’ll have my son with us, my family has been great and been taking him throughout the day so i can recover, so we’ll get lots of alone time.
yesterday, he called me and said that his family might be driving down to my state for one of his family member’s birthday. i didn’t think much of it until he said that they would probably be bringing his 4 year old along for the weekend, which means his family would be 5 minutes away and his son would stay with us. (so, his family would be here Friday night, and leave monday morning and take my bf’s son with them.)
i love his son. i would be thrilled for his son and mine to spend time together, but this was supposed to be a rest weekend. he had already arranged for his son’s mother to watch him for a few days, so it’s not about childcare.
i said “okay… that’s cool, just remember that i can’t really be doing too much right now and playing and chasing after the boys like i usually do.” he assured me that he wouldn’t, and then said that since they’re coming for a birthday party, that he would be going to the party on Sunday(we already had plans for dinner at my parents that sunday.) i didn’t say much - if it’s only one dinner, then that’s fine. well, today he said that he would be going on Friday night too.
here, i got mad. That’s two nights of our trip where he wouldn’t be with me, and i know that they would be inviting him for more. he hyped up this weekend to be all about me getting better and us spending time together, and now he’s gonna be going out. he said that i don’t have to do anything, but if i have his son in my apartment, i will feel obligated to host and be entertaining for him. So i told him, “baby, it’s a 2 day trip and a 14 hour drive. You don’t think it’ll be a lot for your son? and also, you’ve been hyping up this weekend to be all about you ‘taking care of me’, and now you’re switching up. I would love to see your son and for our boys to play together, but i just had surgery and YOU said we were going to chill.” which upset him.
I never admit when i’m sick/hurting, so it meant a lot to me that this weekend was supposed to be about me. I didn’t want to be spending time away from my bf this weekend. So, AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to bring his son to my apartment for the weekend?