u/Barbieatha

In December my 33m fwb had admitted to me 31f while he was slightly intoxicated that he had been sleeping with other people and didn't want to tell me because, in his words, " he knew it would make me emotional". This wasn't the only thing he had been lying to me about. He basically had been telling me lies to make me feel that i was more important than i actual was.

Side and important info: we were very close at the time. Living together for years, really being great friends on a basic level.

Then after i was obviously disgusted and feeling betrayed he would say things like, "she does mean anything. With everyone else ive felt so empty but with you i feel things ive never felt" - word for word. Which honestly pissed me off even more. And from there i told him straight up that even though we weren't exclusive, its straight up disrespectful to involve other people and not tell all the parties involved. Thats gross. That makes me angry all over again.

Then he just, what felt like, love bombed me for days on end. It was almost grotesque how much affection he was pouring on me. Always touching me, always trying to be sweet, always going put of his way. It was nasty to me, like i wanted to shower every time he touched me. I eventually just fully rejected anything intimate with him, and it shouldnt have mattered since he was sleeping with others anyways.

He became quite depressed and hated himself and said all these sad things for months and months after. And i feel like it's a facade, you cant both say you have such deep feelings for me while still rejecting me while still holding onto that secret for so long. Like its impossible to really care for someone and purposefully make the decisions to lie to their face all the time.

So why do some guys do this whole fake like i actually love you in the end? Is it because they are panicking at losing control or panicking because they are just caught in the lie?

it's maddening! My ex admitted to cheating on me to my face, and when i said to him that he never actually loved me then laughed, he started crying. Only time ive ever seen him cry. Im not heartless or cruel, my ex broke up with me on valentines day and not even a week later on my birthday, openly came out as dating my best friend.

Update for clarification: im not upset about him sleeping with other people. Im upset that he knew i would stop sleeping with him as soon as he imvolved other people and chose not to inform me of the health risk i was taking. He was saying it was only me and him, so i assumed sex was safe.

Im on a pump and my doctor keeps wanting me to up my basal, and all my other ratios but i keep going low. Every single time i have to bolus it plummets. Every morning im waking up around 70 or lower. Yesterday i woke up at 40mgdl, then after correcting, my bg shot up to 500 and i took the recommended insulin for that high of a bg, not even 30 min later, im plummeting into lows again. Ive been a t1d for over 20 years and this is the first time im getting tired of the contant lows. My a1c was higher so my endo is trying to be agressive but its making me mad that shes not listening. I have to go through a 12 pack of soda every few days because of the lows. Im ready to stop taking insulin all together. At this point i rarely actually have my pump connected to me. When i drop low i could be low or bouncing around low for an hour or more, i have to stop my basal and disconnect to give me the chance to get above or at 100 WITHOUT dropping back down after reconnecting my pump and restarting my basal