Hi it’s a long story but I’ll try and summarise.
I am a M24 and work with a girl F21 who joined my work 7 months ago. I broke up with my Gf for unrelated reasons and moved out. By Coincidence my F20 colleague also had to find a place to live and it all started with one other from work jokingly saying we should move in together. We starting looking for places talking a lot more outside of work etc and grew a lot closer than before. At this point we now have a house together (renting) and this is where it’s all got worse.
She has a BF who she hasn’t always spoken about in the best light and he sounds like he isn’t the model bf but I try and stay out this convos and say it’s not my place. We spend evenings together drinking wine listened to music chilling etc both falling asleep on the sofa. The other day she invited me to a local town to buy stuff for the house and then we got lunch. Another night I watched football and she watched it with me and wore one of my teams shirts - and then we were comparing how big my hand was to hers and basically holding hands. Nothing has been said or no moves have been made but it just feels so intense. I’m single - I like this girl - she has a bf in a relationship that does have it’s tension but he still has stayed here she still stays there and he does come up in normal conversation. Her friends from what I’ve heard don’t really rate him and she told me the other day her mum thinks she will outgrow him. What baffled me is why an earth would you let your GF move into a house with a recently single colleague and without being arrogant im not the worse looking guy. Like I could never deal with that if I was in his shoes.
There is a lot more than a friendship dynamic - we had told things that would suggest a lot of trust - there is loads of eye contact that seems to go on for ever - constant sarcasm from both of us and making each other laugh to the point we can’t breathe. It’s a messy situation.
I guess the main question is is that I’m at a crossroads - do I claw back slightly (and she knows me well enough snd she will start asking if in okay) - do i maintain this dynamic?
I would never allow anything to happen while she has a BF I just don’t agree with that and I know it’s rough because I’m actively flirting with someone who’s in a relationship but I can’t help that I’ve developed feelings for her and it’s rough.