Please help with my dad's cremation costs and memorial
My dad, Depre Davis, passed away suddenly from Stage 4 Colon Cancer on November 20th, and I still honestly don’t know how to process life without him here.
I haven't been able to afford to receive his cremated remains but have paid for a copy of his death certificate already. I feel like I've abandoned him, having him at the funeral home for such a long time now. It feels like I've failed him in life and death.
He wasn’t just my dad, he was one of those people who could make complete strangers feel comfortable within minutes. He had a calm spirit, a sense of humor that could break tension instantly, and a way of making people feel seen. He loved deeply, laughed loudly, and carried so much wisdom from the life he lived. He loved his family and despite everything life threw at him, he kept going with strength and heart.
His diagnosis came suddenly, and our world flipped upside down almost overnight. One minute we were trying to figure out treatment options and hold onto hope, and the next I was trying to navigate hospitals/hospices, bills, phone calls, paperwork, medications, and impossible decisions while also emotionally preparing myself to lose my dad.
What made everything even harder was that he had no health insurance. Medicare denied him when we needed help the most, and I went into debt trying to care for him and keep him comfortable during the time he had left. I would do it all over again for him without hesitation, but financially it has devastated me while I’m also grieving the biggest losses of my life.
Now I’m trying to give him the memorial and cremation he deserves.
My father deserves dignity, peace, and to be remembered properly. He was loved by so many people across different stages of his life — family, friends, coworkers, and people whose lives he touched just by being himself. He leaves behind two daughters who loved him deeply, extended family who are heartbroken, and memories that will stay with us.
If you take the time to read this, thank you. Truly. Even sharing this post or keeping our family in your thoughts means more than I can explain right now.
Here is the GoFundMe originally created to help my dad during his initial diagnosis, please read his story.