I guess I’m making this post more to see if anyone is dealing with or has dealt with something similar. I’ll give a back story of our situation. So my wife (32F) and I (30M) had 2 unsuccessful pregnancies this year and feel pretty defeated. Beginning of December we found out we were expecting and felt on top of the world, as we both want to be parents so bad. Right after Christmas she started bleeding pretty heavy and found out she had a large hematoma. She bled heavy the rest of the pregnancy and was very discouraged but kept fighting through each day. And let me tell you my wife is easy going and a tough woman, but this was weighing on her heavy and was draining her. Beginning on march during a normal check up, the doctor noticed a large sack on the babies stomach and identified it as an omphalocele, and the babies intestines and possibly other organs were growing outside of the body. This added more stress and worrying. A week later at my uncles funeral, we had to leave early due to her having not normal cramping and excessive bleeding, mixed with a clear fluid. We went to the emergency room and they feared a miscarriage but the baby had a normal heartbeat and looked to be fine. We were relieved but still a bit confused what that could have been. Fast forward a week, and i wake up to my wife moaning in agony at 3 in the morning. She had excruciating cramping that was coming in waves. After a quick google search i had a very bad feeling and rushed her to the emergency room again. After a long 10 hours of her basically in labor, she passed the baby naturally and miscarried. What a traumatic and emotional day, especially for my wife. She was 3 and a half months at the time of this miscarriage.
After close to a month of recovery and getting our heads clear, she made it clear she wanted to start trying again right away. As we both want to have children pretty bad, it’s really our dream to be parents. Anyways, she got pregnant immediately before even having a normal menstrual cycle. We were both so surprised but relieved we didn’t have to wait. At the 5 week mark she started spotting again and it was extremely triggering for her to see blood. It stayed at a steady brown spot for the next 2 weeks when then she had a dream that she wiped and saw blood. That morning while flying out to Dallas for work, she went to the bathroom and wiped and there was blood. After that dream she was so nervous and anxious and wanted to cancel her trip but stuck through it and didn’t end up seeing anything more than brown spotting up until the 7 week mark. This past Thursday she felt a little weak/drained and also wasn’t going to the bathroom (#2) how she wanted, so took a normal dose of miralax to help. Middle of the night she got up to go to the bathroom and was a bit dizzy but made it, did her thing and came back to bed. Her stomach was still bugging and she thought it was gas pains, she got up to go again and fainted and smacked the ground. I woke up
To the loud BOOM as i see my wife unconscious laying on her back. Thank god she didn’t hit her head, only her elbow, but she wasn’t conscience for 15 seconds. Once she got back with it she insisted she was okay and wanted to go back to bed. I couldn’t sleep wondering what TF just happened and how that couldn’t be normal. We got up earlier than expected and i took the dog out to the bathroom and as i came back she was sitting at the end of the bed, telling me something was off. We immediately got dressed and headed to the hospital where we then found out the baby was stuck in the fallopian tube and she needed emergency surgery to remove an ectopic pregnancy.
We are absolutely crushed and i feel even worse because there’s nothing i can do other than be a support system. She sees all of our friends having babies and normal pregnancies around us and we feel defeated. It’s tough and i write this in hopes there’s others out there with similar stories that i can share with my wife so she doesn’t feel so alone.