u/BackgroundSpecific80

my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years on and off a few times but we’ve always basically been together i see him as my safety but it feels like he’s not ready to build a life with me he knows i’ll never be having kids and he agrees with me i always told him i just want it to be me him and my pets but i can’t bring up getting a house together without him getting mad and screaming at me he lives with his mum i live alone he knows because i’ve brought up countless time i want to live together and go to bed every night together and come home together but i feel like he’s selfish because he won’t give me a valid point as to why he doesn’t want to it’s always “i don’t know” and im not really an i don’t know person so im stuck i really love him and see myself with him but i don’t know if he sees it the same way which he says he sees it the same way but he knows that’s the one thing ive always wanted not a marriage a ring or anything just a place to call home together so im stuck it’s either i accept it and 5 years down the track we still don’t live together or i have the talk with him and risk him being mad at me screaming at me making me upset or i don’t know i feel stuck i don’t want to leave the relationship or anything because i see him as my safe place i do everything with him he stays over wednesday friday and saturday but we’ve been together almost 4 years i feel like the relationship needs more then just 4 set days he comes to mine so i just feel stuck my friends don’t understand they have there own problems so i have no one to talk to at all