My mom will frequently get very out of control and yell when she is having trouble interacting constructively with my ten year old sister.
I am much more capable parenting my sister in certain situations. My mom is better at planning and cooking and knowing when things need to get done and all that stuff, but when it comes to the social part of parenting she can feel very lost.
And when she feels lost she will often yell and that makes the situation worse, and makes my little sister more scared of my mom.
I have tried to talk to her about stepping away when she can if things get to intense, and letting me handle it if I am available, or at least giving both of them a chance to cool off before approaching the problem again
There are two problems with this idea:
First, she takes offense to me telling her how to parent,
And second, as mom had a long history of yelling when she gets angry the progress will be slow
So how can I help her come to terms with her limits and push through and trust me even when progress may be slow?