I have a 4 year old nephew (about to be 5) who absolutely has a melt down every time we play anything and he dosent win. He is such a sweet loving and good boy most of the time but the second he dosent win all hell breaks loose.
For example one time we were all paying a matching card game and he didn’t win so he picked up all the cards and threw them and then ran away and cried
One time we were all playing a video game and he lost and threw the controller across the room which he then got in trouble for because it wasn’t his to throw.
The other day me, my daughter, my mom, my sister (nephews mom) and my nephew were outside. My mom sister and nephew we’re all on scooters and I was pushing my 10 month old in this little car thing and we all were racing. We kept letting him win well then one time my sister didn’t let him and he threw his scooter down and started scream crying and went running in the house. My sister chased after him and brought him back outside and told him he was the winner and kept letting him win again.
Today my two nephews and my 10 months old were okay “wrestling” obviously my daughter wasn’t really wrestling she’s baby but she was just crawling after them and jumping on them when they’d lay in the ground. So my sister picked my daughter up and said she’s the champion!! And again my nowhere started crying saying no I’m the champion say I’m the champion and kept going on and on until my sister said he was.
I personally don’t think my sister deals with this correctly because he starts school next year and kids are not going to let him win he has to realize sometimes you just aren’t going to win. When we have him and my sister isn’t around we just let him go have his melt down and we will continue on playing with our other nephew and we will not just let him win or tell him he’s the winner just to please him. Now sometimes I do let him win or let my other nephew win but I also will beat them sometimes and so will my husband. I just think she’s setting him up for disaster thinking he should always win. We will straight up tell him we let him win and he’s okay with that as long as we say he wins.
so after how he acted today me and my sister were talking and she was hoping to get others opinions and how they would deal with this.