I’ve read this post by Kawthar many times now.
https://medium.com/@xkawthar.kd/your-shame-is-not-mine-to-carry-fd7628fbb9db
I found it a long time ago on Twitter. And every time I read it, it ignites, or rather, reignites, a fire in me. At the same time, it makes my heart ache for all those women who have lived a suppressed, suffocated, abused, neglected, taken-for-granted, manipulated married life.
Something tells me this era will be defined by strong, independent, self-loving women (as opposed to self-hating) who put their foot down on abuse and walk away.
I want to share this piece with all the women who are drowning in self-doubt. We didn't come this far only to turn into cattle! Ladies - Muslim or non-Muslim, white or black or brown or any shade in between - please don't settle for crumbs! nor shrink yourself in order to be loved! If you have to "act" and "perform" around a man to please him and "earn" his love - that’s absolutely NOT love! I think it’s called perfecting the art of being a joker in a circus.
Please don't walk on eggshells, and never stop learning about new things, forming your own opinions, and articulating them. If a man is only "polite" and "warm" and “lovely” around you when you act and look like a mute "doll," then you know what you've gotten yourself into. Please don’t ignore the red flags!
