u/BabyGotMak- — reddlx

What do I do?

This will be the my first mother's day after going no contact with my mom. Its been about 3 months, and I'm not sure how I should approach the day. (I have posted in this sub before about what led me to go no contact if you would like some history)

My dad has tried many times to make plans with my husband, son and I and them. We have mostly made excuses and avoided them. My dad reached out to my husband directly and asked what we were doing for my first mothers day. We said we were just keeping it simple and wanted to spend it just the three of us together.

My mom sent a card in the mail, didn't say anything other than "Love Mom + Dad". I didn't get a card for her, but I'm wondering if I should send her a text? I don't want to send the wrong message.

Its also my mom's birthday on Thursday and I dont know what to do. I still have time, I could send a birthday card... but I don't know if thats best.

Every single year I have always been told by my dad how disappointed my mom was with the gifts we got her or the way we treated her for Mother's day and her birthday. Even though we always did our best with gifts and spent the whole day with her. So I dont if I've just been conditioned to feel guilt around these two days.

Any advice would be appreciated!

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u/BabyGotMak- — 4 days ago

▲ 67 r/Crunchymom+1 crossposts

My LO is 10 months old and in daycare full time. We love the daycare and it's teachings are all outdoor and nature based. They are a licensed daycare, and very attentive to each kid.

But I am having lots of anxiety around the quality of food that is being provided to him at only 10 months old. While none of it is considered "unhealthy" (no candy, donuts, cookies, etc - menu attached), we are trying to stick to a whole foods diet, with minimally processed foods and definitely no added sugar until age 2. We are also still trying to prioritize breast milk until he turns 1.

We are able to approve of the foods that are offered during the day, but have often felt quilted into approving more foods. There is also a statement which says that at age 1, all kids are given every food unless a doctors note is provided.

I don't know what to do because I'm not sure if I am just being crazy and I should be less concerned with the foods they offer as they aren't technically bad. But he eats 90% of his meals from daycare. And with the looming message requiring a doctors note, it feels like sending food from home is only going to be short lived anyways.

u/BabyGotMak- — 10 days ago

▲ 2 r/floorplan

Building a house and would love feedback on our current floor plan and flow. Style is a modern farmhouse for family of 4 or 5.

u/BabyGotMak- — 14 days ago

▲ 5 r/fitpregnancy

Simple as that. I am 10 months postpartum and exclusively breastfeeding. I had a rough pregnancy and I think I have worked out maybe 3 times since the beginning of my pregnancy.

Before I got pregnant I was running about 3 times a week and lifting at least 2 times a week. I was pretty much in the best shape of my life.

Last week I was at the library with my LO and an older kid (5yo maybe) asked me if I had another baby in my belly and I know that kid obviously didnt have ill intent, but it has stuck with me.

I work for 8hrs, have a total commute time of just over an hour. Plus all the time it takes to maintain the house and have everything prepped for the next day, and still feel like I am spending meaningful time with my baby and husband. It feels impossible to find the time.

This is my typical daily schedule: 7am - Wake baby and get ready for daycare/work 8am - Commute 8:30am - Daycare drop off and work 5pm - Daycare pick up 6pm - Home 6:30pm - Dinner 7:30pm - Bedtime 8pm - "Chores" 9pm - Get myself ready for bed 10pm - Bed

Looking for any advice or examples of your own schedule to make it work.

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u/BabyGotMak- — 16 days ago