u/BabyCake2004

Hey, I've noticed recently there's been a lot of people on this sub who are considering detransition due to social pressure, or are struggling with non-supportive parents, or are struggling to get their T, etc. Just lots of struggling. I really don't want this post to feel like I'm dismissing those very real struggles, I'm glad this place is a safe place for people to express themselves and how their feeling and get good advice. I just want to share some positivity by sharing everything good in my life.

For some background, hi I'm 22 and I've been on T for 4 years. I currently work in pathology collection but I'm about to start a new job as a teachers aid in a school for autistic children, and I'm so excited!!! They have a child there who wants to start an LGBTQIA+ group and I'm going to be one of the adults helping to run it. The school has no uniform for the adults and we are actively encouraged to wear clothes that are easy to move in and express ourselves. I'm so excited to wear nerdy stuff and be openly queer in a way that really makes a difference.

Besides that I've been getting really into swimming. I'm pre-top surgery and I don't bind while swimming for comfort reasons, so it's been a big thing getting into a pool. I wear women's black swim shorts (because men's don't fit around my hips) and a singlet with a sports bra underneath it and it's been such a relif to find I completely pass to the point I'm able to safely use the men's toilets. The pool is so relaxing and it's quickly becoming a safe place for me. I swim there enough now I haven't showed at home in 2 months XD. If anyone else is planning on doing the same my biggest advice is use moisturizer after showering from the start. The chlorine really dried out my skin at first. Now I use a good body butter I love and I smell so good post showering.

I've always had a bit of neckbeard, but this year it's thickened and turns out it's very very red hair. It looks super cool. I'm finally getting a bit of hair on my top lip, even though it's a bit ugly right now I'm so proud of it.

The biggest bits to share though is I got married to my lovely husband this year and I'm so happy with how I look in the photos. It was my dream wedding. We've just now started family planning so as of next week I'm off T. I know for many people here that sounds like hell, and I'm not going to say I'm excited to be off T either. But I'm so excited to have a baby!!!

Hope this post has given some people some happiness. For anyone whose made it all the way to the end, let me know something good in your life at the moment!!!

Hi! I've decided to post on here because I need to talk about how excited I am to someone but my husband is working.

So we're about to start TTC. I'm going to be a FTM x2, female to male and first time mum, well kinda, my baby will call me dad. I've been on testosterone for 4 years and I've just ceased it entirely to prepare for being pregnant. I'm just so so excited. I've started a diary to document my experience as not many transgender men decide to have their own children. The actual being off hormones is going to suck. It's going to be very weird having a period again (hopefully not too many of them before conceiving). I won't actually start trying until blood tests show my levels in normal female ranges, which could take many months. But I'm just so excited to have a baby!!!

I've had a long time to think about this so I have so many plans. I want an unmedicated birth in a hospital, but I'm open to other options if things are going wrong. I haven't had any breast surgery because I want the option to breastfeed if I decide I can do it, but admittedly I just don't like them being touched or looked at (which even though I'm trans I know people here can relate), so I'm going to wait and see. Current plan is to pump for the first 6 weeks then switch to formula and go back on my hormones.

My husband (a gay man) is super excited too. We are just so thrilled and excited. I can't wait to see my baby and watch them grow and laugh and cuddle and play with them. This pregnancy will be so worth it.

For anyone wondering, yes this is safe for my baby! I had lots of consultations with fertility doctors and hormone doctors before transitioning for exactly this reason. It also shouldn't effect fertility as any effects the hormones have had on my ovaries and uterus will reverse. You can actually even still get pregnant while on the hormones, it's just not good for the baby.

Happy to answer any questions people have, but I right now just want to hear what the cutest thing your baby ever did was? That and any tips you have?