u/BXCellent

I (straight GenX Male) am currently taking an inventory of all my co-dependent behavior.

I am wondering if my attitude to sex is co-dependent.

I have always considered myself a selfless lover. I really enjoy my partner reaching climax as many times as possible. I'm very happy to start by going down on her for the first, and will hold back as much as possible for more. To the point where I can't even finish myself.

Is this co-dependent, not selfless? I'm feeling their emotions more than mine, and putting their feelings ahead of my own. If it is, how do I change? Is there a compromise?