u/BPDwithme

I see an accountant trainee position and they have it as “telework” which used to mean FT telework. The verbiage makes it seem like it’s remote centered if not fully remote but it’s ambiguous.

This revolves a few key players:

- Roommate (55F)
- Me (32 F)
- Kids
- Dog 1, Yorkie
- Dog 2, Pit Bull

So I moved in with this woman in 2021 due to financial constraints. I still have those same financial constraints but she was my child’s babysitter for years before we moved in. In the beginning for 1 room I paid her $1200 total for rent and babysitting. Now that my kids are in school, I have reduced my rent to 600 and added another room for $500, plus she gets paid by the state to watch my son. Our total rent on the lease is 1500. When we moved in she had a lab and a yorkie, the lab later died (he was the goodest boy). Her daughter also lived here and despite having 3 jobs, adopted a pit bull puppy in 2023. She has since moved out and left pit bull to live with us.

Since then there’s been tons of incidents with this dog. First, when he was about 17 weeks, he bit my sons ear requiring 4 stitches. Daughter said she’d get him in obedience school (didn’t happen). He also has attacked the yorkie 5 times, requiring surgeries, and he attacked the neighbor’s dog today after breaking through the fence. The Yorkie is missing half its tongue and had an 8 inch laceration requiring surgery and stitches just last month.

Regualrly, Yorkie and pit bull pee and poop in the house. Pit bull at least 3 times a week, Yorkie multiple times a day (he just lifts and pees even with the dog door). Roommate has asked me to leave the door open if she’s gone, but also expects me to clean up the pee/poop and gets in bad moods if I don’t clean it up. Also, if my kids leave their door open, he (pit) goes into their room and pees on their beds (my son has a floor bed) and rugs. She never cleans up after this and expects me to because “I told you to have them close the door”. The pit also regularly chews on my daughter’s toys if they’re left in shared spaces. I’m also responsible for cleaning up this mess and “she shouldn’t have left the toys out”.

Today she was in a bad mood because of the neighbor dog attack. When I got home from work she immediately berated me because the pit got into the trash in my bathroom (that I regularly close) and got out one of my son’s diapers. She demanded I go outside and pick it up. He also got into the kitchen trash and pulled out food containers that I had put in the night before.

I feel like I am constantly cleaning up after the dogs at this point, and I’m tired of it. Is it my responsibility to clean up after her dogs? Both scare me because of the Pit’s vicious behavior and the Yorkie always bites my hands when trying to take him outside. WIBTA if I stopped cleaning up their poop and the trash they dig out? And WIBTA if I finally said something to her?

ETA: I am actively seeking promotions to get out of this situation, and I started after the 8 inch laceration after recognizing escalating behavior. I have four promotional interviews in the next two weeks (and I had one this morning, huzzah!)