u/BOTWgoat

My boyfriend found my baby passed away yesterday. He was totally normal, then my boyfriend left the room for a few minutes, came back, and he had passed. He got a necropsy and the vet determined it was hypertrophic cardiomyopathy, and that it isn’t uncommon in young male cats. He said there really wasn’t much we could have done. He was only a couple of years old and had no symptoms.

He followed me everywhere, gave me snuggles and kisses and meowed back at me whenever I meowed at him. In the shower, he was at the door. Cooking dinner, he was watching me. Working at my desk, he was in my lap. I come home, he’s waiting at the door.

I’m absolutely devastated and have cried all day. My boyfriend is also devastated. We lost our baby. It was so sudden. He’ll never scream for food again, or run to the fridge to lay right in the way of the door like he loved to do for some reason. Getting ready for work with him on the counter watching me and getting in my way will never happen again.

We have 2 other cats, both female. One I’m bonded with, but she isn’t a cuddle butt like my boy. The other is afraid of us, despite us having her since she was a kitten.

There’s no replacing him. He ingrained himself in every single part of my life. There’s something missing no matter what I do around the house. He was the perfect cat, and I’m just so afraid I’ll never have another soul kitty like that again. I feel so alone.

Just needed to talk about it. I know it’ll get better with time, but it’s hard right now.

This may be a stupid question, sorry in advance. I threw my back out a few days ago and am still recovering. I feel much better but walking is still painful and I have to move very slowly. Would it be okay if I use a grocery store scooter cart when I go grocery shopping today? I don’t have any long term diagnosed disability, and don’t want to take a resource from someone who might need it more.

I am super close with a couple who have been family friends forever. They have 2 kids, both of whom I am not close with and have not been since we were small kids, the kids also live several hours away, parents are local. My family was invited to both of their weddings, and we attended both.

Now I’m engaged, and we are doing a small, more intimate wedding with only family and very close friends. With their kids and all it would be 5 extra people which is significant when the guest list is only around 75 and the venue is getting tight.

Would it be considered rude if I don’t invite them? I honestly am not sure if they’d come or not anyways but if I invite then I have to be prepared for them to show up.

Edited because I didn’t phrase this correctly - I plan to invite the parents, but don’t plan to invite the kids