I'm a newbie fem-dom. I recently came across this person on a NSFW platform, where I really enjoy what he posted. He seems a really timid person so after initially commenting on his posts to show my interest, I've been going to his streams and we dm back and forth as friends to get to know each other. I want to bring it up later, when he seems more comfortable, ask him about his current status, experience, limits, and what he wants etc.
We live in different continents, so it will be strictly online, and the plays will probably just be through phone (voice) calls. I think it should be easier for both of us, as I have some level of social anxiety too... We also speak different languages, I can understand his mother tongue, but I can't speak it fluent enough yet...
I'm mostly sadistic, which I've known for a few years, but as for the other aspects I'm still new and exploring. But I don't think I want a slave in a D/S way. I think I want us to be more like friends/mommy-little when it's not during the play. Do you have any advice for that? Right now I'm thinking maybe we can have titles/nicknames to use just during plays to distinguish it.
Also according to his posts, he enjoys tying his legs up with ropes and/or spanking himself. It's not the most important parts for me, but I wonder how can I engage with him other than verbal cues? Since everything he will have to do to himself...