u/BALLZZ06

Hey guys so I (20f) and my friend k (21f) had had a trip planned to go to New Orleans for about 2/3 months. I had invited her telling her she wouldn’t have to pay for gas, Airbnb, hotels for the road trip, or her concert tickets (we are going to see Ethel Cain). She would only have to pay for food and the 30$ tickets for whatever museums we go to. She ofc said yes.
For background I had invited her to another trip to shenendoa national park in Feb for my birthday. I also told her then I’d pay for everything except food. I spent 400$ on the trip for her to ignore me the day we were supposed to leave (mind you this was for my birthday, I needed up spending my birthday alone)
She has also ditched me for men multiple times. She’s kicked me out of her house, left a sleepover, left me at her house and tons other for a man who was using her to cheat on his gf.
Back to the trip she was so in on coming and I sensed zero hesitation until a week ago. She would not want to talk about the trip, I tried to share a playlist with her for the trip and she told me not to. She started acting like she was going to cancel and then 3 days ago told me she hadn’t spoke to her mom about the trip at all……
I was supposed to leave for the trip yesterday. At 1pm she text me that her grandma is in the hospital. I ofc felt awful and told her that I will help however I can. I asked if she wanted to go on the trip and she said yes. I text around 5pm (mind you we were supposed to leave at 12) to ask what’s going on cuz I do have to leave. She doesn’t text me at all and at 6 I say “hey I’m gonna leave” and all she text back is “I’m sorry.” One one hand I feel like I can’t be mad. It’s her grandma. On the other hand I’m frustrated that this is the second trip that’s she’s canceled on the day of right before we are supposed to leave. I also don’t know if I believe her grandma is in the hospital.. it’s just a strange coincidence that she was being weird about the trip, said her mom would be mad about it, was ignoring me all day and then when we need to leave her grandma is in the hospital. It’s also kinda like her to make up insane story’s to get out of stuff. Anyway I get a little upset and tell her that I’m here for her for whatever she needs but I wish she would be better at communicating. So far I’ve had to waste 600$ on tires for my car, Airbnb, hotels, and concert. I’ve been working 12 hour shifts for 2 weeks for extra money. And I’ve now had to spend an extra 600$ on plane tickets just so I can go.