u/BA-Bagel

Hi! I am the partner of a fence-sitter. Looking for advice/support in navigating the complexities. My partner and I were trying to conceive for a long time (infertility stuff) before I got pregnant last spring, and unfortunately had a miscarriage. We were also doing a little bit of respite foster care at the time, which ended up bringing up a lot of childhood trauma for my partner. Last summer, they expressed their uncertainty around parenting and we started couples counseling in November. Some progress has been made, and overall our relationship is feeling a lot healthier, but partner still really struggles to think about kids/process things. They recently expressed they have days where they can picture it, and days they can't (also have depression). I am trying to be a patient and supportive partner in helping them explore this more, but I find my patience also wearing thin. Advice? Support? I am trying to empathize but also challenging as the partner who is not in limbo with it. TIA!