u/B3goneTHOT

all my life i've been jealous of everyone i know. it dosent matter if its a family member a friend, even someone i dont personally know.

its been like this for a very long time but recently i've come to realize that its affecting my relationships negatively. no matter how good of a friend i am with someone, if they are doing better than me, deep down i hate them for it.

got a big house? i hate you.

got a nice car? i hate you.

have more money than me? i hate you.

born to wealth? should have been me.

own a business or work a well paying job? i hate you as well.

have a passion for something? i hate you. even more so if you work at something you love.

very talented at something? i hate you.

youre smarter than me or get accepted into a better college than me? i hate you.

have a girlfriend? you dont deserve it, why cant i find one?

i find something to envy in every single person. i often find myself wishing others will fail for me to feel better. every time i think this way i feel like a total piece of shit. but its devouring my life and i feel like i cant go on like this anymore. i like to think im pretty good at not showing it but i have secret animosity towards almost everybody. it dosent help that pretty much all my friends are more successful than me, so even if i have small successes in my life i immediately feel like a failure because they dont compare to others'.

its not even like my life is all that bad - i think its probably rooted in a deep sense of inferiority i've had from a young age, which is probably also derived from my mom being a single parent and me being money-anxious all the time.

ive wanted to go to therapy for this but i cant really afford it, so the next best thing is a reddit post i guess.

sorry for ranting, had to get it off my chest. has anyone else experienced something like this? how did you get over these types of feelings and thoughts? i doubt they will ever fully go away, but i would like to at least minimize them so i could feel a little happier in my daily life.

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u/B3goneTHOT — 7 days ago

long story short me and a friend were supposed to go on a 30 day trip during april but life happened and we cancelled it.
we hadn't booked anything by then and we thought we just wouldnt go altogether but somehow the stars aligned and we can both take a long vacation in the coming months.

however, and this is where i personally got lost, im not sure how to go about it.

the latest we could come back from this trip is about mid july, but ive heard pretty much only bad things about japanese summer and decided to forget about that. that pretty much leaves us with the upcoming may and june.

regarding may, while i wouldnt be against booking for around the 15th until the 15th of june, april is already ending and im afraid its gonna be out of our budget because of prices going up significantly so late. (around 67000 usd per person btw).

which leaves us with june, which initially i was enthusiastic about but have also heard terrible things about and really put me off, regarding rain, heat, humidity and such. i really want this trip to be a great one because ive dreamed about going for a long time.

however, if we dont book during this time, we probably wont be able to for many many years.

what do you think the would be the best course of action here? how and when would you plan a trip with our budget sometime soon? are there certain areas we should plan around or avoid considering the season? im not even particularily set on 30 days, its just a random number. im willing to stay a little shorter if we have to.

sorry if it sounds like im aimlessly rambling, english isnt my main language so i dont really know how to convey what i really mean here.

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u/B3goneTHOT — 15 days ago