u/B1Rabbit

I'm in NC with my ex for a few months now. I did it because I realized that any contact after the breakup only made my pain worse.

Lately, I've been wondering how I'd react if I ran into her in person (especially since she's now dating the guy she cheated on me with). My first thought was that... I'd give her a piece of my mind. Tell her how she hurt me. But I've heard that indifference is best.

How does pwBPD react to their exes? Does she feel any shame about what she did to me? I know that when she met my friends, she avoided the subject of me like the plague and it was as if she’d erased me from her memory. How should I react when I see her?

I was on the beach with my friends. After a while I drove to the store with one friend while others stayed on the beach. When I come back, they told me that my expwBPD was here with her boyfriend (guy that she cheated on me and left me for him).

I’m happy that i didnt saw her myself, but the very fact that she was here and still had the courage to talk to my friends when that guy was standing right there… My trauma kicked in for the first time since we broke up. I felt exactly the same as I did when I was in a relationship with her and found out about her cheating.

Since yesterday, I've been having seizures, a fever, and stomach problems. I haven't eaten anything in over a dozen hours.

What really gets me down is that they looked happy, from what my friends told me. Once again, I found myself thinking that she’s healthy now and that if we hadn’t broken up, we’d be happy.

Also when I was with her and meeting her friends, she kept asking about her ex. But in that situation, she asked my friends about everyone… except me. When my friends told her I was nearby, she said they’d better leave, and they drove off. I don’t understand why she erased my existence, when she didn’t do that with her other ex.

I was on the beach with my friends. After a while I drove to the store with one friend while others stayed on the beach. When I come back, they told me that my expwBPD was here with her boyfriend (guy that she cheated on me and left me for him).

I’m happy that i didnt saw her myself, but the very fact that she was here and still had the courage to talk to my friends when that guy was standing right there… My trauma kicked in for the first time since we broke up. I felt exactly the same as I did when I was in a relationship with her and found out about her cheating.

Since yesterday, I've been having seizures, a fever, and stomach problems. I haven't eaten anything in over a dozen hours.

What really gets me down is that they looked happy, from what my friends told me. Once again, I found myself thinking that she’s healthy now and that if we hadn’t broken up, we’d be happy.

Also when I was with her and meeting her friends, she kept asking about her ex. But in that situation, she asked my friends about everyone… except me. When my friends told her I was nearby, she said they’d better leave, and they drove off. I don’t understand why she erased my existence, when she didn’t do that with her other ex.