u/Azul_a_H

Situation: My Mom and deadbeat dad matagal na silang hiwalay like never married.

My last name is last name ng dad ko tapos yung middle name is my mom's last name sa PSA

but here's where it gets complicated…

My whole life, from forms to school ang gamit ko na birth certificate is hindi PSA (the backstory is dati pa namin pinapalitan yung birth cert last name ko, akala namin okay na its processed and all. Turns out hindi pala, nag remain yung last name ng dad ko sa PSA)
Ang gamit ko is like a version of birth certificate na last name ng mom ko ang gamit ko and I dont have any middle name. (I dont know where po siya nakuha)

My 2 siblings, no middle name pero maiden's last name and no registered father ako lang talaga naiba.

Now we have inquired na sa Iawyer, wayback years ago pa ata. Its hundred thousands plus to change my last name. Kasi kailangan pa i-court hearing.

We haven't inquired recently but plan to do so again pag nakapag ipon na daw.

My problem is, is it really that complicated? Nagulat din kasi ako. My whole life eto yung name na gamit ko then this upcoming school year im going to be addressed by a last name that I never even want to be associated with ever…

Is there a cheaper way? Ang another option daw is I need to wait till I'm 18+ para ako na mismo mag change. Its the last resort, but yk. Its such a big change lalo na sa pagcall sa'kin and the way I write on forms…I hate that name.

Problem/goal: Na scam lola ko. Dont know what to do.

Context: My grandma told me months ago that she was talking to a guy in another country.
(Wala pong napangasawa lola ko. I call her lola kasi she was the one who raises my mother and us)

And apparently na aksidente daw yung guy, now yung lola ko nag r-reach out sa relatives na mangutang kasi need daw ng guy. (SUCH AN OBVIOUS SCAM) at ang lala. Pinakita niya sa'kin yung images and all. AI LAHAT. Down to the pictures tapos may video pa na sobrang halatang AI.

First, I felt really sad kasi mukhang she's fallen. Iniyakan pa niya na kawawa daw tapos walang relatives namin na gustong tumulong. She's oblivious.

Sabi ko na sakanya una palang na "my, halatang AI po. 'Wag ka maniwala dyan my, AI lahat yan."

Akala ko she stopped talking to that guy after that. Then kanina lang
Nag papa change siya sa'kin ng password sa fb. Nagtaka ako kung bakit tas when I asked her…wala lang daw trip niya lang. So I deep dived in her phone a little bit. De putchaa kausap niya pa rin pala.

WORST IS umutang na pala yung lola ko ng huge amount sa like kakilala niya hundred thousands plus ang amount na mag-guess ko. Tapos nakita ko umuutang siya sa relatives namin ng 300k, 200k or what pang down daw sa utang…

Dude, isang block lang ng lalakeng yon. That debt will be hers. Im so devastated. Nakikita ko pa na magt-trabaho daw siya kung di mabayaran (she texted to our relative) She's 60+ ! With a not so stable pension !

Previous attempts: Sinabi ko na siya sa mom ko.

Im a teenager. Not even in college yet. We live paycheck to paycheck. I know na this shouldnt be a problem to ME. But when rain comes crashing down. My small family ang apektado. (we already distanced ourself to our toxic relatives. Mom is a single mom.) We live a normal life. Not struggling but definitely not rich or comfortable enough if there comes a financial problem.

The hole is dug