Last night she told me she has HSV-1 that appear on her mouth lip, she say she has this since 7 years ago, she seemed very irresponsible to my eyes since she thinks that if there is no outburst there is no chance for me to get it.
She has done oral multiple times at this point so I’m worried to get it down there now. I wouldn’t care about my lip but I do for genitals.
She has been with like 20 mens total and she is my 2nd, I always tried to take care of myself and I don’t want to risk myself.
- Is there any chances that I’m not infected or I’m already in?
- I want to tell her no oral until I know for sure, and off course condoms
- If she feels a burst is coming, how long should we wait to have sex or kiss again? This is what I care the most
- Is 2 months enough time to get myself tested and not get a false negative?
- I have always been really paranoic about stds and this makes me want to withdraw with her and have no more sex, Im a bit disappointed by her irresponsibility telling me this now after telling me she had nothing and that we could avoid protection.
Any advice will help, I don’t want to approach her about this but she will stay with me tonight and idk how to express it
TLDR;
My gf informed me she has HSV-1 on mouth lip, told me she haven’t had an outburst in like 3 years.
Am I safe or not?, how to continue without risking myself?
should I avoid oral completely?