Well meaning uncle putting pressure on me/ brother to contact father
Has anyone else had a family member try to encourage a reconciliation? My brother and I were estranged not through choice, by bonkers dad, a few years ago. At the time and for about a year after I was wanting to reconcile but was told my father wanted nothing to do with either of us.
Now a few years on I have come to terms with the estrangement and think it is for the best. Brother feels the same.
My father's brother is the only person close to all of us with other family members having taken sides. When he last tried to discuss the situation with my dad, he got cut off for a few months so now says he won't mention it to him again.
Ive given up on my dad and any dreams of happy families but ny uncle seems to hold this fantasy that we can just write him a letter and he'll see the error of his ways and welcome us back with open arms.
Last time uncle suggested the letter I said it wasn't the right time and kicked the can down the road now he is mentioning it again. Uncle has done a lot for me and brother and is almost a surrogate dad to us now when other family members turned their backs but he doesn't realize how toxic my dad is.
How to deal?