I'm 20F and in university. I'm not technically out to my family but it's basically an open secret.
I've identified as a lesbian for a couple of years now. I know that I find women attractive in a way that I don't find men. I've felt the desire to kiss other girls and I'm not adverse to the idea of having sex.
However, no one has ever shown an interest in me. It probably doesn't help that I'm an introverted and grew up in a rural area. But I feel like most people have had someone interested in them by twenty. I don't know if it's because I'm too awkward or unattractive or just too socially inept to realise it.
I've tried making friends with people at uni but it tires me out. A couple of months ago I went out shopping with a group of other queer people but they were very extroverted and also left me in a second-hand bookshop. I can be a bit neurotic when it comes to my daily routines and I struggle with sensory overload so I don't go to parties/clubs. I'm used to spending my time alone so I'm fine with not making friends at uni.
My main question is am I a lesbian if I don't really have an interest in putting in the work to find someone and wouldn't mind being single for life?